Pool at the Doubletree

It was after lunch at Neale Donald Walsch’s workshop. People had been asking questions about problems in their lives that might be improved by looking at them from a spiritual perspective. A woman at the back of the room, sitting by herself, raised her hand. When the microphone was brought to her, she said, very quietly, that her daughter had died a year and a half ago and she didn’t seem to be able to get over it.

Neale got up from his chair and approached her. “You can’t get over it?”, he asked, almost in disbelief. “Who told you that you’re supposed to get over it?” She answered, “My friends. They say I should be able to move on by now and that it’s hard to be around me”.

Neale was visibly angry. “You’ve had to bury your child! They’re not your friends if they insist that you should be moving past your grief because it makes them feel uncomfortable!” He suggested that it might help her to start a grief group of her own so that she could experience herself helping other mothers who are living through the same ordeal. She said that she had already begun to organize that, because she had lived through her first holiday season without her daughter, and wanted to assist others who are about to experience it for the first time.

For me, the most fundamental truth I found in this conference was the constantly reinforced principle of helping others. To be of service is why we’re here. Not martyred, co-dependent service, but rather service from the fullness of our hearts and our beings. If you need something back from those you are serving, that’s not true service. You shouldn’t be giving in order to get.

I think that Deepak Chopra put it wonderfully when he told the story of the science behind the metamorphosis of the butterfly. I had always thought that the caterpillar and the butterfly were two versions of the same insect. But apparently that’s not true. In the process of changing forms, the DNA also changes.

When you give to others out of the fullness of your heart, you, too, change and heal. And that change is what will ultimately change the world. It starts in your own backyard and spreads to the people who need that help the most.

Meditating on a mountaintop can be enlightening, but enlightenment is meant to be shared for the good of all. Step on out and up. 🙂

2 Responses to "Down From The Mountaintop"

  1. colleen

    November 14, 2007

    He gave her a good answer. Bless his heart and hers.

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