Times of transition provide a wonderful opportunity to ask yourself: Where am I now? How did I get here? Is there anything I know now that I didn’t know the last time I was at a crossroads?
Unfortunately, many of us miss a great opportunity to shift or adjust course by reacting emotionally, and then making decisions based on heated emotions. Emotional reactions are natural and need to be acknowledged and processed, but it’s important to remember that emotions are like the weather – they pass over. You really don’t want to make a permanent decision while you’re being blown about.
Of course, emotions also give you information and that information can be analyzed:
– Am I afraid? What am I afraid of?
– Am I angry? Is the anger based on my fear or on how I’m being treated?
– Am I grieving? How can I honor that?
– What is my truth? Am I over-reacting or perhaps finally recognizing my own worth?
What would you tell your best friend in this situation? Sometimes moving to a different perspective will help you treat yourself in a more loving fashion. Transitions can be difficult and you need to be as kind to yourself as possible in order to see the way through.
If you need help, get it. Decide if you need a shoulder to cry on, or maybe a way to stop re-creating the same scenarios.
Life is all about change and transition. They’re not anomalies that will suddenly stop occurring when you get whatever it is that you need or want. Learning to move through transitions with whatever power and grace you can manage is what you should be aiming for.
Consider this today and see how you can deal with change more positively and proactively.