I’m currently working with a client I admire tremendously. She’s been dealing with her husband’s cancer diagnosis for the past several years and has now made the courageous decision to begin planning for the future of her business when he is no longer able to work with her.

What’s courageous, to me, is her willingness to be totally in the present, enjoying whatever time is left to them together, while at the same time seriously projecting herself into the day when she will be alone. She and I are organizing for what will come although no one knows exactly when that will be.

Which can be said for all of us, of course. Last night I watched the film, Tuesdays with Morrie (based on the true story of the same name). I saw it when it first came out years ago but wanted to hear the messages again. The message I had remembered most clearly was “When you know how to die, you’ll know how to live.” Like the narrator of the story, Mitch Albom, most of us don’t want to deal with the inevitability of death and so we miss opportunities to make the most of the life we have.

My client and her husband are not making that mistake. They have their rough moments to be sure, but those moments aren’t preventing them from realizing and accepting the larger truths. I’m so glad to be in a position to help them, and to learn from them.

One Response to "True Grit"

  1. colleen

    June 26, 2008

    I haven’t seen the movie but love the book. The Grief and Loss class for counselors that uses my book also uses Tuesday with Morrie.

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