Lemon (or lime) tree

In Neale Donald Walsh’s workshop at Celebrate Your Life, he said that there are two basic questions to ask of life, and that it’s extremely important to put them in the right order:

1. Where are you going?

2. Who are you going with?

He said that too many of us ask the second question first. We select someone to go through life with, and then try to decide where we’re going. This can complicate the trip, because we may not end up agreeing on the road to take. He wasn’t talking about reaching a physical destination, but rather what’s most important to us at any given point in time — our true essentials. Given that The True Essentials is the title of my next book, I really resonated with what Walsch was saying.

There was a time, early on, when I made decisions based on perceived security-value. Even though I felt guided to follow a certain path, I opted for “safety”. I have no regrets about the choices that I made but I sure made things difficult for myself. I learned the hard way that I had to follow my internal compass, no matter how scary that seemed.

Although most people at the conference were middle-aged, there were some in their 20’s, and I wondered what my life would have been like had I known enough about myself at their age to choose differently. I obviously wouldn’t have been such a “late bloomer”! But I wouldn’t have learned the lessons I apparently needed to learn through adversity. Lots of adversity. 😉

At least that part seems to be over. I put the two questions in the right order before I married Roy, and we have both been blessed with a partner who understands and supports our individual missions, as part of the whole. I always believed in the importance of asking the right questions, but now I know that that may not be enough. The system works best when you get the sequence right.

2 Responses to "Two Questions"

  1. colleen

    November 14, 2007

    I’m going to my writers circle with my girlfriends. But I do know what you mean. When we’re young we don’t even fully realize that many of choices we made set down a path to arrive where we are today. Many of those choices can’t or won’t be re-made. I can’t imagine how anyone can live with a partner who doesn’t have the same life perspective, although I did for 14 years first time around.

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